Watching the company you keep is really important during your walk with Christ. Some people in your life are distractions. Shortly after salvation in June of 2023, I got an invite somewhere from a group of people I did not associate myself with. I said no at first, but my sister was going so I eventually said yes because I didn’t want her going alone with them. Immediately, I had this gut feeling that I was making a mistake. Later, I found out that it was a mistake. Bad things happened, and the people we were with started it. Nothing crazy happened to me or my sister, but at that time, I wish I had gone with my gut feeling (Holy Spirit) because it would have saved me the disappointment.
There have been times when other believers tell me things they are involved in behind closed doors that made me question their relationship with God. Jesus says we will know them by their fruits,
“Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing but inwardly they are ravenous wolves. You will know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes from thornbushes or figs from thistles? Even so, every good tree bears good fruit, but a bad tree bears bad fruit. A good tree cannot bear bad fruit, nor can a bad tree bear good fruit. Every tree that does not bear good fruit is cut down and thrown into the fire. Therefore by their fruits, you will know them” (Matthew 7:15-20). This is important because I can discern which believers I should associate myself with and dissociate myself from.
Two relatable verses: “He who walks with wise men will be wise,
But the companion of fools will be destroyed” (Proverbs 13:20). “Do not be deceived: Bad company ruins good morals” (1 Corinthians 15:33). In these two verses, we see the consequences associated with bad company. You are the company you keep, so steer clear of certain people, crowds, or environments.
This week, I would like for you to make a list of your good and bad company. The “good company” list should include people who inspire, help, and challenge you to be the best version of yourself. They are honest with you and hold you accountable. You can benefit from these people in many ways, and they support your walk with Christ. The “bad company” list will include people who keep you active in sin, bring more harm than good to your growth, and are risky to be around. They may also be discouraging, draining, and negative, causing your faith and mood to plummet.
Once you make your lists, set boundaries for your life. Discuss those boundaries and expectations with the good and bad company. Some people we have to let go. It is vital in our walk with Christ. For others, you will need to set boundaries. Especially for those who may frequently depend on you for help/advice. Some people you have to pray for and direct them to God. Not to be dismissive, but we have problems too. Taking on other people’s issues can be draining. Distractions will cause you to lose focus. It is ok to vent or listen, but it can become burdensome. Always consider self-care before taking on someone else’s problems. Be kind about it, and have a great week!